"Nothing will shake a man -- or at any rate a man like me -- out of his merely verbal thinking and his merely notional beliefs. He has to be knocked silly before he comes to his senses. Only torture will bring out the truth. Only under torture does he discover it himself."
So many parallels between grief, fear, physical pain and the pain of the loss of losing someone that you love. Each one of these things is guilded with a glimmer of the next. Where one ends, the next begins, you cant really separate them.
No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear... At other times it feels like being mildly drunk, or concussed. There is a sort of invisible blanket between the world and me. I find it hard to take in what anyone says . - C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed
"Part of every misery is, so to speak, the misery's shadow or reflection: the fact that you don't merely suffer but have to keep on thinking about the fact that you suffer. I not only live each endless day in grief, but live each day thinking about living each day in grief."
- C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed
"The more we believe that God hurts only to heal, the less we can believe that there is any use in begging for tenderness" - C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed